Your Career Forecast: September / October 2017

Your Career Forecast: September / October 2017

I work as a career and business strategist. But my secret passion is… astrology!

About once a month,  I post an overview of what’s happening in the cosmos and how it might influence your career. It’s called: Your Career Forecast.

Whether you’re job-hunting, running your own business, or wondering about the ideal time to ask for a raise or take a vacation, each Career Forecast will reveal the important dates and cosmic shifts that you need to know about.

I am joined by my dear friend, Heidi Rose Robbins, a master astrologer who will provide expert insight into what’s going on in the stars.

Let’s dive in!


OVERVIEW

What’s going on this month…

HEIDI: The Sun moves into Libra on September 22nd, 2017 at 1:02pm Pacific. Libra is a sign of relationships. We shake hands. We kiss. We offer friendship. We treat a stranger with respect. We recognize that we are not alone in the universe and that everyday we have the opportunity to connect with our fellow human beings in a kind and compassionate way.

Libra is all about beauty and harmony. Libra does its best to create environments and conversations that uplift us and allow us to feel connected. When the Sun moves into Libra, the month ahead is an opportunity to collaborate, connect, and call interesting people into your life.

On September 29th, Mercury joins the Sun in Libra. Mercury is the planet of communication and Libra brings diplomacy. So, conversations over the next few weeks could flow with ease. Use these weeks to have the conversations you’ve been putting off. With Mercury in Libra, you can often find peaceful resolution.

October 5th is the Full Moon of Libra. While the Moon is actually in Aries, we focus on the highest and best qualities of Libra. Again, collaborate. Unify. Work together. Harmonize. How can you extend yourself to someone and make the relationship better from one encounter? How can you protect the rights of someone who’s being treated unfairly? Libra brings justice and equality.

October 5th is also a very creative day because Mars and Venus sit in the same degree of the sign of Virgo. This is “creativity at work” at its best! It’s a great day to get things done, to clean things out, or finally find a solution to a problem.

October 10th is a big day. It’s the most significant astrological shift this month. Jupiter has been in Libra for the entire last year. It now moves into the sign of Scorpio for one year. Scorpio rules money, power, intimacy, and the therapeutic process. Jupiter grows whatever it touches. We want it to grow the best parts of Scorpio. For anyone with strong Scorpio in his or her chart, this should be very good year—a year of conscious growth. We will all benefit from the Scorpio journey of transmuting fear to love again and again.

Venus joins Mercury and the Sun in Libra on October 14th. This is a great combination for love. When Venus is in Libra, everyone is the lover. Everyone just wants things to be beautiful and harmonious. It’s a great time to spend with a partner or beloved.

Mercury moves into Scorpio on October 17th. This is a great combination for getting to the heart of the matter. It creates the energy of the researcher, the scientist, the one who dives deep. Get tenacious with this combination. Don’t give up.

October 18th is a great day for expansive thinking. Jupiter and Mercury meet in the same degree of Scorpio. Again, it emphasizes the depth of Scorpio and the power of the mind to reach beyond the norm. This is penetrating thinking at its best.

Finally, on October 19th, there is a New Moon in Libra. This is always a good time to initiate relationships, to make the calls, to plan an important meeting. Libra has the gift of bringing beauty and harmony. Do something that allows you to feel at peace or feel full of the beauty life can offer.

It’s a powerful month with many planets in Libra. Work on all the most important relationships in your life—strengthen and deepen them. And who knows? Maybe you’ll start a new significant relationship (or two) this month as well.


What does all of this mean for your career? Let’s look closer…

JOB HUNTING?

Here’s what you need to know…

ELLEN: In an interview on NPR’s All Things Considered, Matt Youngquist, the President of Career Horizons, said, “At least 70 percent, if not 80 percent, of jobs are not published. Most people [spend] 70 or 80 percent of their time surfing the net versus getting out there, talking to employers, taking some chances [and] realizing that the vast majority of hiring is friends and acquaintances hiring other trusted friends and acquaintances.”

Matt is right. Tons of great jobs are never posted online. To find these kinds of jobs, you’ve got to ask your friends, family, colleagues, and acquaintances to help you out. You’ve got to ask the people in your social circle to keep their eyes peeled for opportunities, to make introductions, and sometimes, to put in a good word for you.

Fortunately, with all the Libra energy in the air, this is the ideal time to do that! Especially between October 10th – 17th, you can use the Libra/Scorpio energy to get out there and network with enthusiasm.

Remember that “networking” doesn’t have to be awkward and complicated. Networking can mean sending a handwritten note to your aunt, posting a quick note on Facebook, or emailing three friends to say, “I’m searching for a new job. My dream would be [describe your ideal situation]. If you happen to hear about anything like that, could you let me know?” If you fire off a couple emails like that, it might lead to some surprising opportunities. A little effort can open big doors.

This Libra month is also a great time to negotiate. Is it time to ask for a raise, a promotion, or something else that you want? What would make you feel happier at work? A different schedule? A new chair that doesn’t constantly squeak? An intern? On September 29th, Mercury joins the Sun in Libra. Use this day to ask for exactly what you want. Your conversations will flow with ease, and you’ll be able to tap into your “inner diplomat”—calm and reasonable, yet persuasive.


ALREADY HAVE A JOB?

Here’s what you need to know…

ELLEN: This is a great month for team collaboration. On October 5th, the Full Moon of Libra gives us a chance to collaborate, work together, and harmonize. On October 5th, we also have some fiery, warrior energy from Mars, making this a terrific day to rally the troops and get things done. If there’s a project that hasn’t been progressing very quickly, this is a great moment to hold a meeting, assign tasks, and set an aggressive timeline to finish it. No more dithering around. Go, team, go! Onward to victory!

On October 18th, as Heidi mentioned, we have a great day for expansive thinking—for thinking beyond the norm. This would be a great day to sit with a tricky problem at work and explore some new solutions. Try brainstorming a list of 20 brand new solutions and write all of them down—no matter how off-the-wall, zany, or unreasonable they may seem. Sometimes, ideas that initially seem “unrealistic” or even “silly” turn out to be… exactly the right approach!

Also, sometime this month, consider giving your workspace a “face lift.” Libra is all about beauty and harmony, so this is a great time to declutter and spruce things up. Crack open the windows and let the fresh air inside. Hang some artwork inside your cubicle or office. Treat yourself to some fresh lowers. Put nice pens and stationery on your desk to remind yourself to send “thank you” notes to colleagues, to keep strengthening those relationships. Set the stage for a successful October, November, and December… so you can finish the year on a strong, positive note!


SELF-EMPLOYED OR RUNNING YOUR OWN BUSINESS?

Here’s what you need to know…

ELLEN: The whole month of Libra—which begins on September 22nd and lasts for 30 days—invites us to think about the idea of partnership.

What does partnership mean to you? Are you craving more partnership and support in your business? Are you spending a little too much time working alone, at home in your PJs? Does that need to change? These are excellent questions to consider, especially when there’s Libra energy in the air.

Personally, I don’t like running my business alone. If I feel too isolated, my creativity dries up. That’s why I love doing this Career Forecast each month along with my friend Heidi. I love working at co-working spaces like The Hivery, because I can soak up the creative energy in the room and chat with other women about my projects, and theirs. And I love running my interview series, How Did You Do That?, because it’s so collaborative. I ask questions, people respond, we chat and exchange ideas, back and forth… it’s a joy for me to do!

Even if you don’t have any full-time employees (I don’t either) maybe it’s time for a little more partnership in your business. It could be an intern, an assistant, a new workspace where you’re surrounded by other entrepreneurs, or a weekly date with a writing buddy or business buddy.

On that note… October 19th brings the New Moon in Libra, which is a beautiful time to begin new projects and initiate new relationships—whether it’s a romantic relationship, friendship, or business collaboration. The energy in the air is fresh, sparkly, and new. Think: first date.

If there’s a local business owner you’ve admired for years, reach out and say, “I love your work, and I wanted to finally introduce myself and say hello.”

If there’s a podcast you love, send a fan letter to the host and let them know how much you appreciate the show.

If you’re trying to line up more clients, reach out to one of your dream clients and say, “I don’t know if you need this sort of thing right now, but if you’re ever looking for a [describe whatever you do], I’d love to work with you!”

This is a powerful time to initiate all kinds of relationships. Reach out, wave hello, and make your presence known!


OVERALL, THIS IS A GREAT MONTH FOR…

• Beginning new relationships.

• Strengthening existing relationships.

• Teamwork, partnership, and collaboration.

• Expansive thinking, fresh ideas, new solutions.

• Handling tricky conversations with grace and diplomacy.

• Creating more support in your career—new friends, buddies, and allies who can support you on many levels.

• Relationships, in general. Romantic, platonic, creative, professional, all of the above!


IMPORTANT DATES TO REMEMBER

September 22nd – The Sun moves into Libra. We begin a month of harmony and beauty. Focus on strengthening all kinds of relationships.

September 29th – Mercury in Libra. A great time for peaceful communication, diplomacy, negotiation, and reaching successful resolutions.

October 5th – Full Moon of Libra. Libra powers in full force! Harmony, togetherness, friendship and goodwill for all.

October 10th – Jupiter moves into Scorpio. Lots of power in the air today, focused on themes of intimacy, healing, and transformation. It’s also my birthday!!

October 14th – Venus in Libra. Love, love, love is all around! Hang with your best friend or schedule a date night.

October 17th – Mercury moves into Scorpio. A great day for tenacious research and communication. Scour the Internet. Look under stones. Don’t give up too quickly.

October 18th – Jupiter and Mercury in Scorpio. A great day for expansive thinking and problem solving.

October 19th – New Moon in Libra. A new beginning—and a beautiful time to initiate new relationships and make new plans.


CAREER MANTRA FOR THE MONTH

“Umuntu ngumuntu ngabantu. (A person is a person because of other people).”
—Zulu proverb

We are social creatures. We need one another to survive and thrive. Even if you’re fairly introverted and independent—like me—there’s no denying that we all need relationships. The stronger and deeper, the better.

During this month of Libra, work on your relationships. When your personal and professional relationships are strong, that’s worth more than gold. Those relationships will carry you through difficult times, and those relationships will unlock doors for you, and carry your career forward.

This month, instead of spending 5 hours fussing with your résumé or website to make each sentence “totally perfect,” take those 5 hours and invest in your relationships. Call. Text. Send flowers. Help out a friend. Take someone out for a meal. Do something kind for a colleague with no strings attached. Those kinds of actions will pay off… a hundred times over.

Whatever you’re working on this month, I’m wishing you great connections and collaborations!

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An Interview With Laurie Wagner

Ellen Fondiler | An Interview With Laurie Wagner

Whenever I meet someone who’s got a really cool job, who runs a thriving business, or who has completed an amazing project, I always want to know: “How did you do that?”

I’m always curious to hear the “behind-the-scenes story” — who they emailed, what they said, how they got their first client, how they got their foot in the door — the exact steps that they took to achieve their goal.

HOW DID YOU DO THAT? is an interview series where we get to hear the REAL story behind someone’s success—not the polished, neat and tidy version.

To see a complete list of all the interviews that have been completed to date, head over here.

Ellen Fondiler | An Interview With Laurie Wagner

Name: Laurie Wagner
Location: Alameda, California
Profession: Author, Writing Instructor, Founder of 27 Powers


You started out wanting to write music for a living, but then changed your mind and decided to focus on writing stories instead. You found success pretty early on; you have written five books (all published by Chronicle Books) and have been published in numerous magazines.

Writing is a tough way to make a living, at best. But you have persevered. You have allowed yourself to define what it means to be a writer in very broad terms. Can you talk about that a bit? How were you able to allow yourself to grow as a writer and also figure out a way to make money?

Everything that I’ve done in the last 25 years has had something in common. I worked in book stores, I went to work for a major N.Y. publisher, I wrote for newspapers and magazines, I wrote books, worked on documentary films, and then I became a writing teacher. I never had a strategy or a game plan – but I see now that all of those jobs had writing/publishing/creating in common. My love of words and writing, my love of books and stories – – that love got to express itself in a variety of ways – so I was lucky like that.

And I’m also practical. So while I’ve always been an artist, I’ve always had my eye on where the money was going to come from. Making a living writing for magazines or writing books was wonderful, but it wasn’t always practical to make things for the market and depend on that market for my income. I had little kids, my husband was an artist and I needed a stable income. Teaching became that.

Today I teach nine writing classes a week on a video platform to people all over the world, and also live, here at home in Northern California. And I also keep my own writing alive, writing every two weeks with friends.

Take us back to the very beginning of your writing journey. Can you remember your very first piece of published writing? What was it? What happened? Were you nervous? How did it feel to put a piece of your artwork “out there” into the public eye?

My first published piece was for a Bay Area art magazine called Metier. I think it was a piece about naked models. I really loved the interview process. I loved asking questions and getting to know people. It was like permission to be nosy. I was probably stunned to see my own words printed, and a byline. I probably collected 20 of the magazines so I could share them with friends and family. It added a new and vibrant quality to my life. I don’t remember being nervous about being “out there.” I think I wanted more of it.

There are so many ways to be a writer. In the last 15 years, you have pivoted from writing books to teaching others how to express themselves on the page. You teach a practice called Wild Writing that is a timed writing process designed to bypass the inner critic in order to show up authentically on the page. What caused you to make the shift from writer to teacher?

Purely practical. I’d written a few books, they were beautiful, and they did nicely. But I had small children and my husband was an artist, which meant that his income was up and down and that made me crazy. Creating things – like books – for the market was unpredictable, so I needed to have work that brought more stability. Teaching was the way to go. I didn’t mean to become a teacher, but I was good at it. I never got an MFA, which meant that I didn’t teach at the academic level, and so for the last 20 years I’ve been building my own teaching practice. I make all the rules, I create the classes, I teach what’s interesting to me. I’m not beholden to anyone, and because of that I’m free to do exactly what I want. Doing your own thing has a lot of benefits like you can make your own schedule and go in any direction you want. But you also have to work really hard. Being a creative with a strong work ethic has turned out nicely for me.

I am curious… after you decided to really go for it with your writing business, how long did it take before you felt financially secure, like, “OK, it’s working. I’ve arrived where I want to be.” A few months? Years?

Years. I started teaching one writing class a week at my husband’s art studio, and it went to two, and eventually three – but over time – not overnight. Now, 20 years later, I teach four writing classes on video every week, as well as four in person classes every week. I also have virtual classes and I travel and teach – but it really took years to build everything and I’m still creating and building. For a long time – probably the first 10 years of teaching, I was also teaching at a website called Writers.com because I had a lot of classes there, because I didn’t have to do the marketing and because I needed the income. You’ll hear me say it over and over, I’m practical. I only quit teaching there a few years ago. It took me years to build what I have now at 27 Powers – I always kept one foot on something secure until I could handle things on my own. And again, when you work for yourself, you’re always changing it up, making new things. I create new products all the time. I want to offer new things to my clients, but I also want to keep myself interested and challenged.

In addition to teaching writing, you’ve been trained as a professional Co-Active Coach at The Coaches Training Institute. Did this training help your writing and teaching practice? If so, how?

I think learning to be a coach and learning to step into leadership is always important when you’re working with people. I coached for a while, but ultimately took what I learned about people and myself into being a better teacher, a better human being. What I learned there touches everything I do.

Ellen Fondiler | An Interview With Laurie Wagner

What’s been one of the scariest or most discouraging moments of your career so far? What happened? How did you feel? And how did you get through it?

I’m not sure I’ve had a scary moment per se. But I have had some dark times where I wasn’t comfortable in my own skin – where I might have chosen to stay behind closed doors for weeks just because I was going through something. But the thing about my work is that I need to be there. I teach those classes. I have to show up. So I had to find a way to be where I was – to be myself even in the midst of other people – and not only that, to lead from that place. Teaching is a very naked art and I think part of why people trust me is that I am always myself, which gives them permission to be themselves.

I will say that last year – after nearly 20 years of teaching Wild Writing, I heard this tiny whisper in my ear that said, “maybe I’m done with Wild Writing.” But just as quickly a much louder voice came in, “Oh no you’re not.” At 57, I’m probably not going to start a new career, so I had to find a way to keep my own work interesting to me. I ended up creating a 5-month teacher training as well as a new product called 27 Wild Days, for writers. I got busy, I got creative, I upped the ante. That’s my response to fear!

So many writers—and people in general, non-writers too!—struggle with self-criticism and perfectionism. It can feel so difficult to publish a blog post, for example, while feeling like it’s “messy” or “not perfect yet.” Do you have any advice for someone who struggles with perfectionism, who feels like their work is “never good enough” to be shared publicly?

We all go through this. No one is exempt from a little bit of perfectionism. I think deadlines and accountability really help. For instance, I was on stage a couple of nights ago for a story telling event. 12 minutes on stage, no notes. I’d worked for months on this story, and honestly, I was still trying to figure it out the day of the show. I could not get to the heart of what mattered in my story, but I said I’d be there, so I had to find a way to make peace with my story. Was it my best story? No. But I delivered it the best way I knew how. Of course I was afraid that people would judge me or write me off. I wanted to have a great story, but I had what I had. If I hadn’t had that deadline, I’d have dumped that story a long time ago. Deadlines inspire you to keep working and eventually to let the piece go – put it out there. Hopefully there will be many more pieces behind it. Think of the big picture, the long game.

Same with blog posts, which I post every two weeks. They’re not always easy for me. Sometimes I stress that the one I wrote two weeks ago was better than the one from this week and what are people going to say? Will people drop off my mailing list? Maybe. But I need those blog posts. They’re part of my marketing plan to sell my writing classes, and that means I’ve got to do my best and make peace with what I’ve got. Deadlines. Accountability.

Ten years from now, what type of work do you imagine yourself doing? Exactly what you’re doing now? Or something different?

Well, I’m 57-years-old and I probably won’t be teaching 9 classes a week in 10 years. My dream is to teach fewer classes, travel and teach more, make more art, listen to more music, write at least one more book. My entire life since I was a kid, has been focused on creating things. I don’t think that’ll ever end. People talk about retiring. I’ll never retire, though I’ll probably pull back from working with so many people each week.

Lots of people stop themselves from writing because they think, “So many other people are much better writers than me! What could I possibly have to say that anyone would want to read?” Any words of advice for those people?

We’re just human beings trying to communicate with other human beings. Thinking that we need to be smart or special or better than other people in order to share something of value is a tough way to go. It’s too self-critical. We have to trust that what matters to us will matter to others. There’s a good chance it will.

When classes sit around my dining room table to write, I tell everyone that we’re making a witches brew, and that each person has something essential that is needed to make the brew – their own voice – their words. We can’t make the brew without each person – we need their voice. This lets people know that they matter – that the way they think and write matters – and that we can’t create the gold without them. So trust that what matters to you will matter to others.

Ellen Fondiler | An Interview With Laurie Wagner

3 THINGS

Imagine that you’re having a cup of chai tea with someone who dreams about being a professional, full-time writer. They have no idea how to actually do this. What are 3 things you would advise them to think about, or do, or try?

1. Keep the day job.

Don’t put pressure on your writing to pay your bills – maybe ever. Try to find venues to publish your work in, but don’t be sorry or embarrassed that you still have a day job. Be grateful. That weekly paycheck will give you freedom to explore your work and try new things.

2. Write about things that you love.

Cream rises to the top. What you have a deep interest in will shine on the page and readers will feel your passion.

3. Take yourself out into the world and meet people, try new things, get out in to nature.

Being a writer isn’t about chaining yourself to a desk. The best writers have lives, they let things touch them, they have experiences which they then bring back to the page.


ONE MORE THING…

Do you have “one more quick question” that you’d like to ask Laurie? Email me and tell me what you want to know! I might choose your question for my ONE MORE THING… Podcast (Coming soon!!!)


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An Interview With Jules Blaine Davis

Ellen Fondiler | An Interview With Jules Blaine Davis

Whenever I meet someone who’s got a really cool job, who runs a thriving business, or who has completed an amazing project, I always want to know: “How did you do that?”

I’m always curious to hear the “behind-the-scenes story” — who they emailed, what they said, how they got their first client, how they got their foot in the door — the exact steps that they took to achieve their goal.

HOW DID YOU DO THAT? is an interview series where we get to hear the REAL story behind someone’s success—not the polished, neat and tidy version.

To see a complete list of all the interviews that have been completed to date, head over here.

Ellen Fondiler | An Interview With Jules Blaine Davis

Name: Jules Blaine Davis
Location: Los Angeles, California
Profession: Kitchen Healer


You call yourself a “kitchen healer,” which is a pretty fabulous job title, if you ask me! You go into people’s homes, you talk to them about their relationship with cooking and food. You help your clients identify what they’re truly hungry for, both physically and spiritually, and then you help your clients come up with new cooking traditions that help them feel nourished and energized. It’s kind of like therapy or life coaching… but with a foodie twist. How did this all begin? Did you just wake up one day, and decide, “I’m a kitchen healer, that’s my job, now?” Or was it a more gradual process?

I would say that I’m still becoming a healer. So let’s just put that out in the space.

The beginning of the work began when I became a mother. Being a home for a body began many conversations for me. Of course, you want to nourish that being and to do that you need to nourish your own body, even look at your own body, even remember that you have a body.

I’m someone that loves to find out about fun things and then invite the person to come to my house and do them. At that time especially, I loved having people in my home, and so I had a music class in my home, and moms would come and I would be roasting some veggies and quinoa in the rice cooker, and my son would be napping, and then by the time the class started hopefully he would wake up.

Everyone would be breastfeeding and banging the drum and just connecting with each other in the only way we really knew how at the time, through deep exhaustion and knowing that this was our one outing of the day.

And inside that, I just really loved nourishing people and it was never an “event” for me. I never felt like “Oh my gosh, people are coming over and it’s an event.” It was simply “Oh great, more bodies to feed.”

I would just throw stuff in the oven and turn on the fire. The women gathering in my home were sharing such profound stories, and also they would share about how they have no idea how to be in the kitchen and create a sense of home. They didn’t know how to boil water, they didn’t know how to feed themselves, they didn’t know how they were going to nourish their baby.

And listening to all the stories and reading the few Michael Pollan books that had come out, and Alice Waters, and also Rachel Naomi Remen and Mary Oliver, and just my background in what I hunger for, I realized “Oh my gosh, these women are starving.”

Ellen Fondiler | An Interview With Jules Blaine Davis

You say “these are women are starving.” Starving for what? For food? For something more than food?

Starving for nourishment on every level, I would say. Physical, emotional, spiritual. That is not to say I wasn’t hungry! I was hungry for their stories. I was hungry for their hunger. So the gatherings with women and food and beauty and healing began. We were all hungry for each other. We still are. We need each other.

It was about food, but also not about food. Because really, where we are nourished or where we aren’t nourished shapes our entire body. It shapes our life. It shapes the relationships we’re in. Our physical shape and our emotional shape. And so the beginnings of my work were really about just going into women’s kitchens.

So, women in your community would invite you into their kitchens… and then what would happen? Cooking? Talking? Counseling?

At first what I did was organize. “Oh the foil can’t afford to be in the drawer next to the oven ’cause there’s only one drawer and you need other things in there in order to put the fire on.” These kitchens were not being used and even if they were, it was hard to get in there. All of the beauty that was their kitchen was just an empty vessel that needed fire and love and tending and wisdom. The lineages that were in that woman needed to arrive.

I would ask her questions like, “What do you think about this peeler? What do you think about this knife? Do you use this? What do you think about it over here?” I’d move all the wood spoons—if they had maybe even one—into a cracked pot from a cactus outside that was dying and then just do that, put some salt in the jar, put the butter out. Get a big old Straus milk bottle and fill it with  water and just get the lentils in some Ball jars. The major movement in their homes that these small changes made,  blew them away.

Whatever the stories are, they all live inside what happens in the kitchen or what doesn’t happen. And so, we get to rewrite that story in how we set the kitchen up, in how we tend to it. And that is where I began.

Ellen Fondiler | An Interview With Jules Blaine Davis

And then what happened after you re-organized the kitchens. Was that enough to make a deep, lasting difference in your clients’ lives?

I would work with all different kinds of women, wherever they were. It was like restructuring, re-building, getting the mortar and pestle out to build a culture that where one did not exist

Some people naturally have an aroma in the home—the chicken soup on the stove, the beans and rice in the oven, because it’s in their culture. All of us long for that deeper warm nourishment and where one does not exist, we need to build it.

So, I would do that. We would go to the market, we would gather, I would show up the next day and cook with them, make tons of food, bring the smells and heart into the kitchen. We’d do it for a few weeks, I’d leave, and three months later, I’d come back and see that our work didn’t fully integrate into their day to day lives.

I realized that the stories they would share with me while we were cooking, while we were gathering, all they had to say about this bowl or this teacup was where the medicine lives. This was the bridge to where they wanted to get to and who they were becoming as women, mothers, nurturers.

On this bridge was grief of what didn’t happen, or what did and how wrong it was or just the deepest longing to be held and loved in the way they could feel. There was shame and vulnerability and hunger. All of these pieces were the medicine they brought me so they could heal and turn on the fire in their kitchens and in their lives.

The “kitchen healer” was born in that realm, but really it was like, kitchen and then healer came later.

Ellen Fondiler | An Interview With Jules Blaine Davis

As you began doing this work as a kitchen healer, were you able to find plenty of clients right away? Or was it difficult?

It was word of mouth and it was not easy. The answer truly is that I just kept showing up for the conversation because I was so hungry for it. I’d show up in many ways; I’d show up catering something for a group of doulas, I’d show up doing different things with food, that really wasn’t aligned with what I was doing; but then I would share while they were eating. I got a few clients, but it wasn’t sustainable. But those few clients got me to the place where I could buy the food for the next gathering of women that would come over.

It was also a time of grief for me. I needed to learn how to make money as an artist, and in the beginning I felt horrible that I couldn’t figure it out. But I just kept saying “yes” to everything where I could share what I was up to. I just kept showing up to myself. I had lots of doubts, to be sure. I just think that I knew I was hungry for this connection, and I figured if I was hungry, they must be hungry too.

Now that you know the depth and the complexity of what you’re unpacking, what are the different ways you work with people? Do you work with them one time only? Do you work with them over the course of a month, over five months? Do you have packages? Or is it more organic than that?

I mostly work virtually. Right now, I’m doing a five-month journey and I’m only working with five women. The journey might begin with me learning their emotional landscape, their story, and it’s not always about food, but of course it always comes to that. And then we’ll go in the kitchen, virtually, and I’ll see where they’re at and what they’re inside of, and also just how they’re eating, what they’re eating, but it’s not so much nutritional as it is how they feed themselves. Over the course of five months they get to reshape and rewrite their story inside their lives. And of course my ultimate goal is that they integrate all this learning, so that these are real changes.

What’s beautiful about the journey is that they have me at any point. Some clients write me every single day, some clients write me every week, some clients just see me for our 2-hour session each week. The more you lean in, the more you’re held accountable, the more you’re willing, transformation occurs. Accountability is a big part of it. There’s a lot of different modalities inside the therapy that helps reveal and unravel deep needs and deep hungers, and so when they come up, they’re held in it. I’m right there with them the whole time.

I also teach a class once a month in Culver City called Body, which is a two-hour experience where we move our bodies to phenomenal music. There’s poetry woven in, and then we circle and have wood board love—where I put beautiful food out on handmade cutting boards and we talk and eat and connect.

The only way to really be with me physically, at the moment, is through that class and on retreat—both in October and May in British Columbia.

Ellen Fondiler | An Interview With Jules Blaine Davis

You recently got interviewed on GOOP, Gwyneth Paltrow’s wellness and lifestyle blog. How did you feel when that interview came out? Did it feel exciting? Did it feel strange to be thrust into such a big public spotlight? A little of both? Also, how did that interview come about? Did they contact you out of the blue?

It was the first time the work had ever gone out into the world in a translatable way that people could really hear it. It took10 years, and it felt phenomenal. The work was completely seen and held by them. Elise, the main mama of the Goop world, had heard about me for a few years. We know a few people in common. After many years of gathering so many different kinds of women, you never know who’s at the table, and you never know who they’re talking to later, who they’re going to get on the phone with when they leave your house after a day of beauty and nourishment, and so I think over time people begin to know who you are.

Again, it connects to the “showing up” piece. So the Goop article was an amazing “hurrah.” I’m still so honored to have it out in the world. I love that it’s definitely cleaner and more organized than my own way of sharing my work.

The article came at a perfect time in my career. I wasn’t ready before. I had to figure out my business. I had to heal my money wounds. So when women wrote me because they read the article, I was ready.

More than anything, what was the most rewarding result of the article, was hearing from women who were in the women’s liberation movement, grandmothers who wrote me and thanked me for naming something that hasn’t been named. I would just sit at my computer crying. I long for elders. I long to be with women in their 60s and their 70s and their 80s and their 90s.

We so need that. We don’t need a bunch of 30-year-olds hanging out and talking about how much they know. That’s not serving the world. We all need to be together in circle to be talking about what is hunger. Where did you come from? What’s shifted for you? Oh, you made it through that. I’m going to make it through this. That is, I think, the utmost nourishment.

Ten years from now, what type of work do you imagine yourself doing? Exactly what you’re doing now? Or something different?

I would say that in 10 years, I would love things to be with more ease.

I see this work being much more prominent in conversation, definitely integrated more into the culture. I see it taking on many lives of its own. Inside all different homes, inside women gathering more because they’re inspired by the work I’m doing.

I definitely see that I will be writing books, and I see a lot of travel with those books. The other thing I really see and really want is that I want to sit with grandmas. I want to sit with grandmothers in the kitchens of Italy and in all different cultures. I just want to take notes.

I will keep showing up for whatever scares the hell outta me, what is so uncomfortable, continuing to move out of my own way and keep showing up for what is possible. And if that means more books and traveling, if that means meeting the most divine, gifted humans on the planet that don’t have an Instagram feed or aren’t completely famous or whatever that is, I just want to keep expressing and being.

Ellen Fondiler | An Interview With Jules Blaine Davis

3 THINGS

Imagine it’s 10 years ago. You’re just beginning your kitchen healing business. What’s some advice you’d give to that younger version of yourself?

1. What would I say to her? Dance more with your clients in the kitchen. “Put on the music and dance with them.”

2. The second is, “stop over-laboring, you’re enough.” It’s hard to not over-labor when you are just starting and walking in a forest that no one has walked before. But I just kept pushing. I could have taken a breath.

3. And the third would be, it’s going to be okay. It’s a long road. Fill that fear, that loneliness, that “Oh my gosh, wait, I sent this thing out and no one replied”, fill that with yourself. Fill that with a walk, a tea, an amazing book you love. Go away. Fill that, that nonsense, that noise of “Oh maybe it isn’t a good time to do that,” or “Maybe I’m not going to make money doing this.” Fill that fear with something that’s nourishing.

There’s a beautiful quote that I’m going to end with by the poet Rupi Kaur:

“Loneliness is a sign you are in desperate need of yourself.”

That’s sums up what I try to do with my work. Bring women back to themselves.


ONE MORE THING…

Do you have “one more quick question” that you’d like to ask Jules? Email me and tell me what you want to know! I might choose your question for my ONE MORE THING… Podcast (Coming soon!!!)


YOUR #1 CAREER GOAL: ACHIEVED

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Photos: Emily Knecht, Cynthia Perez, Charley Star, Dewey Nicks and TEDx.

Your Career Forecast: August / September 2017

Your Career Forecast: August / September 2017

I work as a career and business strategist. But my secret passion is… astrology!

About once a month,  I post an overview of what’s happening in the cosmos and how it might influence your career. It’s called: Your Career Forecast.

Whether you’re job-hunting, running your own business, or wondering about the ideal time to ask for a raise or take a vacation, each Career Forecast will reveal the important dates and cosmic shifts that you need to know about.

I am joined by my dear friend, Heidi Rose Robbins, a master astrologer who will provide expert insight into what’s going on in the stars.

Let’s dive in!


OVERVIEW

What’s going on this month…

HEIDI: The Sun moves into Virgo on August 22nd, 2017 at 3:20pm Pacific. Virgo is a sign that rules hard work and analysis. Under Virgo, we purify, clean up our act, and get organized. We adjust what needs to be adjusted. We create systems that allow for more efficiency. It is “back to school” time, whatever age we happen to be. Sometimes Virgo feels like a welcome relief from the lazy days of summer, and sometimes it feels like the to-do list suddenly got very, very long.

Venus moves into Leo on August 25th, which might extend the Leo summer days for just a bit longer. Venus rules the beautiful. Leo rules expression. With Venus in Leo, we create. We shine. We rule. Venus in Leo loves to lead. So, even if you don’t have a team to lead, you can lead your own life wearing your crown!

Mercury joins Venus in Leo on August 31st. Use these days between August 31st and September 10th (when Mercury moves into Virgo) to write, speak, and express yourself freely. Enjoy the combined energies of the communicator (Mercury) and the sign of radiant expression and leadership (Leo). 

We have an electric trine of Mars and Uranus on September 2nd. Take bold action. Expect the unexpected. Give your warrior-self a shot in the arm. Establish a new pattern that you wish to create in your life. 

The very next day, September 3rd, Mars and Mercury line up in the heavens, so your words have an extra punch. Be careful not to use your words to attack or destroy. Simply know you’ve got energy and strength on your side when you communicate.

On September 5th, Mars moves into Virgo. This is the real threshold for no-nonsense work. Dive in. You will have plenty of fortitude and enthusiasm to get a lot done. The editing and refining energy is very strong.

The Full Moon of Virgo is the very next day: September 6th. The Full Moon is a potent time to steep in the energy of the month. The Virgo energy is at its richest. Under Virgo, we get the material and physical life in order so that we can let anxiety fall away. We replace the anxiety with a great flow of love and calm.

Mercury joins Mars in the sign of Virgo on September 10th. This is a great time to look at something carefully, to edit or refine your work, or to streamline a project and let the essence shine forth.

September 17th brings a very creative, electric day. Venus trines Uranus in the heavens. Sudden love! Unexpected, bolt-out-of -the-blue ideas! Life won’t feel status quo or mundane.

Finally, Venus moves into Virgo on September 19th. We have a stellium (or collection) of planets in Virgo! The Sun, Moon, Mercury, Mars and Venus will all be in Virgo! If there’s a mess to be cleaned up in your life, now is the time. If there’s a problem that needs untangling, now is the time. If ever you had the energies of hard work and discrimination on your side, this is the moment. Go for it. Be meticulous. Be precise. Refine what you do. Everyone you work with–and for–will benefit.


What does all of this mean for your career? Let’s look closer…

JOB HUNTING?

Here’s what you need to know…

ELLEN: All the details that job hunting requires will feel almost effortless during this Virgo month. This is especially true at the end of the month.

On September 17th, when Venus trines Uranus, you’re likely to experience sudden, unexpected ideas. You might come up with a new approach for your job search. Or, while you’re in the shower, you might think of a brilliant way to re-write your cover letter. If you find yourself having a “sudden flash” idea, run with it! Keep a notebook or pad of Sticky notes nearby at all times. Make sure you capture the ideas when they come.

And on September 19th, there will be five planets in Virgo. This is called a “stellium,” and it will create a huge surge of energy—the wind beneath your wings. This is the moment to finish your job applications, to update your job search spreadsheet, to schedule coffee dates and informational interviews, to contact people on LinkedIn… whatever needs to get done, this is the moment, and the timing really couldn’t be better! You’ll have five planets working together to give you the focus, precision, and detail-oriented mindset that you need. Go, go, go!


ALREADY HAVE A JOB?

Here’s what you need to know…

ELLEN: Some of the words used to describe Virgos are: analytical, meticulous, practical, conscientious, hard working, sensible, efficient, orderly, health conscious, careful with money, serious, nit-picky, concise, detailed, sensitive, efficient, cautious, intelligent, perceptive, contemplative, prudent perfectionists.

With the sun in Virgo, this is the perfect time to buckle down and apply yourself. The long, languorous summer is over. Now, it’s time to get things done.

On September 5th, when the action sign Mars moves into Virgo, you will have extra fortitude, energy, and enthusiasm. If there’s a daunting project at work that you’ve been putting off, this would be an ideal time to dive in and get it finished, once and for all.

This get-it-done energy continues as the planet Mercury moves direct (hooray, no more Mercury Retrograde!) and Mercury joins Mars in Virgo. You will be virtually unstoppable! That big pile of paperwork on your desk will be reduced to zero. You will rule the meetings, soar through difficult tasks, and you’ll be astonished by how much you’re able to complete. Make a list of your achievements so that you can give an impressive “recap” to your boss at the end of each week. She’ll be floored by your productivity, even more so than usual.

September is also a great month to deal with thorny problems. In the book Sprint by Jake Knapp, he recommends tackling big problems in small sprints—like 5 day increments. If there’s an issue at work that needs to be resolved, or a project that’s been stalled, gather your workmates and create a 5-day plan to sort it out and get it done. Everyone will feel better once this “unfinished business” is over and done with, at last.


SELF-EMPLOYED OR RUNNING YOUR OWN BUSINESS?

Here’s what you need to know…

ELLEN: Melissa Cassera—a highly creative business coach and TV screenwriter—teaches a productivity tool called batching.

When you’re batching, it means you block out a specific chunk of time—like an entire day or an entire week—and during that time, you focus exclusively on just one type of project. You could spend the entire day writing newsletters, queuing up blog posts, clearing out your inbox, sending “thank you” gifts and cards to your top clients, or sending press releases to the media. Anything you want. The key is to focus on just one type of task. Uni-tasking, not multi-tasking.

Batching allows you to focus deeply, get into a creative flow-state, and churn out a ton of work in way less time than it would normally take.

This Virgo month is a perfect time to practice batching. Use the days between August 31st (Mercury and Venus in Leo) and September 10th (when Mercury moves into Virgo) to batch, batch, batch your heart out. Block off those days to write a bunch of blog posts, record a slew of podcasts, or anything else that’s on your to-do list. Turn off social media, put your phone on silent, and dive in! You’ll be amazed by how much you can get done.


OVERALL, THIS IS A GREAT MONTH FOR…

• Focus
• Organization
• Planning
• Practicality
• Precision
• Productivity
• Sprinting

BUT WATCH OUT FOR…

• Perfectionism
• Obsessiveness
• Excessive working, burn-out
• Being hyper-critical and nit-picky


IMPORTANT DATES TO REMEMBER

August 22nd – Sun in Virgo (we’re kicking off a 30-day period of hard work, lists, spreadsheets, organization, and heightened productivity!).

August 25th – Venus moves into Leo (put on your crown, create, shine, and rule your kingdom).

August 31st – Mercury moves into Leo (excellent day for leadership, self-expression, and communication in all forms).

September 2nd – Mars trines Uranus (bold action—expect the unexpected!).

September 3rd – Mercury conjunct Mars (great time for strong, powerful communication).

September 5th – Mars moves into Virgo (even more get-it-done energy in the air!)

September 6th – Full Moon of Virgo (rich Virgo energy—soak it in! Put things in order, create better systems, and create more ease).

September 10th – Mercury moves into Virgo (do some careful editing, refining, and streamlining on this day).

September 17th – Venus trines Uranus (sudden ideas, unexpected breakthroughs, beautiful surprises!)

September 19th – Venus moves into Virgo (a stellium of five planets will give you a huge surge of focused, diligent energy—major productivity!)


CAREER MANTRA FOR THE MONTH

“Your self-worth is determined by you. You don’t have to depend on someone telling you who you are.” —Beyoncé

Beyoncé is a Virgo—which isn’t too surprising, given her incredible work ethic. She’s considered one of the hardest working people in show business—if not the entire world!

In this interview, she explains: “I am a Virgo to the tee! […] I pay attention to details. When I do something, I do it 100 percent. I have high expectations of myself and expect the exact same thing of everyone around me. I’ve always been that way. I am all or nothing.”

This month, tap into your inner Beyoncé. Hold yourself to the highest standards. Make your list of priorities and tick things off—no excuses, no delays. Give your very best effort—not 50 or 60 percent.

How would you move through your life—and workday—if Beyoncé was watching?

It’s a slightly intimidating thought, right? But it’s definitely something to think about!

Have a fantastically productive month! Whether your career involves writing, designing, accounting, or recording your next musical masterpiece in the studio, you’ll benefit from the Virgo energy in the air. The stars and planets are completely on your side!

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UNLOCKED Links: August 2017

Ellen Fondiler | Unlocked Links: August 2017

Once a month, I curate the best links on how to find work that you love, be excellent at what you do, and unlock any door that stands in your way. Mostly, I gather articles and podcasts that capture my attention because they make me think or laugh. Here is the link round-up for August 2017!

• These are troubled times. Think how our world would transform if each of us put kindness front and center in our lives? The digital platform,  kindness.org is designed to reach across oceans and time zones to inspire small ripples of everyday compassion that ultimately create massive waves of change.

• Life works in funny ways. As a society, we venerate youth, rather than the honor the wisdom and experience of our elders. The older you get, the more invisible you feel. Here is a website that is a veritable treasure trove of content from the 50+ tribe. Ageist is made up of  a collective of researchers, thinkers and creatives dedicated to promoting a better understanding of later life styles. Each week, I look forward to their newsletter that is always filled with interviews, articles and great photos.

• I use LYFT all the time. They are a life saver for a city dweller and are in my top 10 of best and convenient inventions. Since most drivers are doing the job to make money while they pursue their passions, I tend to get into great career conversations with my Lyft drivers. They all have such great stories. I often fantasize about doing an interview series spotlighting my drivers called Lyft Your Career. I would ride around… ask the drivers about their career aspirations… give career advice  (LYFT, are you listening??). Here is someone that did the opposite — he became an Uber driver and started a podcast interviewing his passengers. Just goes to show, if you have an idea, run (or rather drive!) with it!

• It’s no secret that I’m always curious to hear the “behind-the-scenes story” of how people found their careers or artistic pursuits. Here and here are the stories of 26 amazing people to keep your eyes on.

• I never thought that I would go nuts over kitchen appliances. And yet, I can’t help but crave these Dolce and Gabbana mixers, blenders, toasters and coffee pots. I’d say they are almost worth a whole kitchen re-do!

• Are you a solo entrepreneur who is feeling isolated and in need of external stimulation? Remote Year is a brilliant marriage of international travel and co-working. 50-80 participants travel together for a year and live and work in a different city each month. It takes working in the corner coffee shop to a whole new level.

• Summer is always a slow time for great indie movie releases (though I did see the movie Maudie a few weeks ago and loved it!) While we wait for Fall’s meatier selections, here is a list of some all time great indie rom coms to keep you busy.

• We are reading a lot about side hustles these days. They help you make more money and get started on your passion projects. But where does one get started? And how do you find the time? Girlboss lists 21 low-hustle side hustle ideas that are worth considering no matter your skill-set. All you need is a little motivation and WiFi to get started.

• There’s a new online dating site that lets the women do the choosing. It’s called Coffee Meets Bagel. It also has a great tagline: Meet Your Everything Bagel today. Okay, maybe a little too cutesy, but I do like the attempt to make meeting people online feel like less of a meat market.

• You know how every day someone asks “How are you?” And even if you’re totally dying inside, you just say “Fine,” so everyone can go about their day? This podcast- Terrible, (Thanks for Asking) is the opposite of that. Recommended by my friend Alexandra Franzen (who always seems to find the best stuff), this show is about talking honestly about our pain, our awkwardness, and our humanness. No surprise, it’s sort of addicting.

• And finally, some tips from life coach Martha Beck on how to lower your stress level. Tip number one should be turn off the news (it’s not). These are actually pretty good. Check them out!

Happy reading and listening,

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Photo: Willie Franklin.

An Interview With Adriana Rizzolo

Ellen Fondiler | An Interview With Adriana Rizzolo

Whenever I meet someone who’s got a really cool job, who runs a thriving business, or who has completed an amazing project, I always want to know: “How did you do that?”

I’m always curious to hear the “behind-the-scenes story” — who they emailed, what they said, how they got their first client, how they got their foot in the door — the exact steps that they took to achieve their goal.

HOW DID YOU DO THAT? is an interview series where we get to hear the REAL story behind someone’s success—not the polished, neat and tidy version.

To see a complete list of all the interviews that have been completed to date, head over here.

Ellen Fondiler | An Interview With Adriana Rizzolo

Name: Adriana Rizzolo
Location: Los Angeles, California
Profession: Yoga Teacher, Kirtan singer, Hairstylist, Healer


After moving to New York in your early 20s, you completely reinvented your life. You went from non-stop partying to doing yoga and meditating three times a day. Today, you teach yoga professionally among many other things. Take us back to the very beginning of your yoga journey. Can you remember your very first yoga class? Where was it? What happened? Were you nervous to walk in the door? How did it feel?

My first yoga class was in a tiny basement gym, somewhere in New Jersey, close to where I was living at the time. I remember it being really dank and there were a couple guys lifting weights on the way into the yoga room that was a separate little room in the back. It was a hot yoga class. I would go with my best friend and my boyfriend at the time. At that time I was still doing a lot of drugs, and so it was very challenging in a lot of ways to do it. But I really loved it.

I love the image of that dank little room. How did your yoga practice grow from there? And how did you use yoga to break from your addictions and to grow your practice?

I feel like it found me. I just started practicing way back then, and then it just kind of continued. At the time, it didn’t even really make any sense. It was just something that I knew resonated with me. When I moved to New York, I began practicing a lot, and eventually just decided that I wanted to do a yoga teacher training. I had started to get more into the philosophy, and wanted to learn more.

Right after my dad passed, was when I really started doing yoga hardcore. I wasn’t totally sober yet, but I stopped doing hard drugs. Instead of partying at night, I would go to a yoga class. After class I would be hungry and tired and go to bed because I wanted to wake up for an early class. Over time, doing drugs naturally phased out of my life.

When I did my teacher training, I met a meditation teacher, and that’s when I went to India, and got totally sober. I learned to use the inner aspects of yoga to help me with deep healing and working with my trauma. I began to pay attention to and listen to the fire that was inside my body, and how to use it as an empowerment tool as opposed to something that just was painful. Instead of needing to numb myself, I began to wake up

I think the yoga practice instilled a deep devotion towards service. That’s what my practice has evolved into: helping others learn how to teach, and to deepen their own awareness to their bodies, to their breath, and to their heart.

I noticed on your website that you offer a service called a “voice empowerment session.” You work with clients who want to feel more confident using their voice, and you do this through primarily through chanting, singing, and conversations about your client’s insecurities, dreams, goals, and what’s been hindering their voice… it’s so fascinating! I’m so curious to hear more. Why inspired you to offer this kind of service?

A big part of my journey with yoga has been learning how to use my voice. For a very long time I was really unable to make myself heard. When I was in college, I would never be able to speak in front of a room full of people, or just really speak honestly. I was very quiet, and contracted, and checked out. Over the years of doing my meditation and yoga practice, I learned about a chanting practice that is called kirtan. Kirtan has really helped give me a very concrete way to uncover what I call my soul voice. I am a bit of an authenticity junkie, so it is important for me to speak from a true place. The ways that we connect and heal and transform is through experiencing one another’s true and authentic selves. That is what lies at the heart of my teaching and lies at the heart of all of my work.

Ellen Fondiler | An Interview With Adriana Rizzolo

In addition to teaching yoga you’ve worked as a hairstylist for almost 20 years, and you’ve been called a magical hair witch. You offer a service called “healing haircuts”. What happens during a healing haircut, and how is it different from a regular haircut?

I’ve been cutting hair since I was a kid. What happens during a healing haircut is that we focus more intention on healing. I still give a haircut like I normally would but the intention is one of healing and of holding a space where a woman can really share where they’re at on a deeper level. Sometimes I ask questions or inquire if there’s something that they’re ready to really let go of at this point in their life. Sometimes it’ll be a meditation. It just depends on the timing and how long it takes me to cut the hair. I cut the hair dry, and throughout the cut, do a Reiki energy healing, or an energy clearing with some sage. I really prefer to set the tone of a higher vibration for people to fit inside.

Recently, you got profiled in the New York Times. What an amazing coup. A journalist wrote about your hairstyling work and wrote a review about her experience with you. I’m really curious. Everybody always says, “Oh, I wish I’d get an article,” at least I often say to myself, “I wish I’d get an article in the New York Times, that would be amazing.” Was it exciting? Or did it feel odd to be thrust into the public spotlight in such a big way? What was the experience like for you?

I had this insight about the concept of a Hair Witch, and I said to my best friend, “We should do something with Hair Witch some day,” because both of us do all this energy healing work and yoga, and we cut hair. I put it on my Instagram and wrote “Yoga Teacher, Meditation Teacher, Hair Witch.”

The reporter somehow found that and made an appointment. She might’ve mentioned she worked for the New York Times, but I did not think much about it and I certainly did not think she was writing an article about me. We just had a great time together and that was that.

Months and months and months later, maybe even a year, the Times emailed me saying, “We need to take a photo of you for the article.” And I asked, “What article?” And they didn’t really respond to me. They vaguely said, “Well, maybe it’s for the style section so maybe you did an interview on products or something that you use”. I didn’t remember doing an interview for New York Times, but I wasn’t about to turn them away, so I said “Well I’m in LA,” and they said, “We’ll send someone there.” They sent this really nice photographer, and she also said, “Yeah, it’s for the style section. You must’ve done an interview.” And I still had no idea what it was.

Not that long after, about a week later, I woke up and had tons of emails from people that wanted sessions. I went on Instagram and Facebook and saw that the reporter had tagged me in the story. And there I was, on the front page of the Style section of the NY Times! It was a great article that really was very authentic to who I am.

I was very grateful and also was very scared. I was literally hiding under my covers. I wasn’t immediately saying, “Oh, this is so great.”

It’s been this process for me on an inner level to allow myself to feel really amazing things like that. It’s about allowing myself to feel the love and to feel safe in it. For whatever reason, it’s part of my soul’s journey.

Ellen Fondiler | An Interview With Adriana Rizzolo

There are so many self-employed people that I’m sure you see—yoga teachers, hair stylists, consultants—who really struggle to find clients. And it can feel so scary to look at a schedule and realize, “Gosh, I don’t have anything lined up. How am I gonna pay my bills?” Was there ever a point in your career when you really struggled to find clients? And how did that feel, and what helped you start getting booked more consistently?  And after the New York Times article came out, did you have a huge boom in client inquiries? Did that last? Or did it die down after a while?

I think as an entrepreneur, there is always a struggle with consistency around the earning of money. There are months when things are really slow and other months when there seems to be an abundance of money. After the article was published, there was definitely been a huge uptick in my flow of clients, and I’m much busier now. There were more emails than I could respond to, and I probably even forgot to respond to some. And then it definitely slowed down. But I think it did open the doorway to an energetic abundance.

And yes, I think it’s a struggle for a lot of people. In those moments of struggle, there’s an opportunity to take care of ourselves in different ways or to seek out the other deeper things that are important to us. It’s not always easy to see the upside in those moments because in my experience, I feel disempowered in some way. Instead of saying “Oh I get this month off, I could write my book now.” I feel “Oh my God! I’m not making any money.” At my core root, safety and security disappear, so I don’t feel super abundant and creative. It’s a journey for all of us in terms of the ebb and flow of it all.

Speaking of when it flows, you’ve created such an unconventional career that blends so many of your passions together: Yoga, meditation, Reiki, kirtan chanting, hairstyling and you somehow managed to take these very diverse things and put them under an umbrella that holds them all. Do you ever feel like, “Whoa, I’ve got way too many things going on”? Or not? Or how do you make space for everything on your calendar and find the balance that you need?

I tend to lose track of time because part of my job is to bring people beyond time and space. So being present in the day-to-day realities is a really big growth edge for me. Something that helped me is just writing out my weekly schedule and leaving spaces. It helps me to track my clients and also leave time for myself.

Ellen Fondiler | An Interview With Adriana Rizzolo

3 THINGS

If someone wants to run a multifaceted business like yours, what are the three pieces of advice you would give them?

1. Get support from people you trust and like.

2. Follow the thing that really brings you the most connection and joy, and just stay with it. Stay really committed to your own inner compass and what lights you up.

3. Having fun is a really important thing because part of why we do this as opposed to maybe working a job that has a lot of security and knowingness, is because we have this freedom. Use that freedom as a way to evolve, and expand, and express, and to be an artist in your life.


ONE MORE THING…

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