Month: December 2014

UNLOCKED Links: December 2014

Ellen Fondiler | UNLOCKED Links

Once a month, I curate the best links on how to find work that you love, be excellent at what you do, and unlock any door that stands in your way.

Here’s a big, epic list to carry you right into the New Year!

THOUGHT FOR THE WEEK

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Got a great idea — but strapped for cash? Check out these unique ways to fund your business venture.

Some say that Millennials are superficial, self-obsessed, and care more about Pinterest than reading the Classics. Not true. In fact, young people are out- reading their elders by a wide margin.

Want to get more done without working yourself to the bone? Here are 28 steal-worthy tips from the most productive people on the planet!

If your neighbor’s kid asks you for some guidance: say yes! Studies show that kids with mentors find happier, more fulfilling careers.

This writer thinks that successful careers have three distinct chapters — each about 15 years in length. Which chapter are you in, right now?

You’ve read it and proofed it and read it again. But then… oh no! As soon as you press send, you see a mistake! Why is it so hard to catch your own typos?

Want to be a great public speaker? Here are 9 steps to guide you. (Plus: a power-stance that boosts testosterone production… and confidence!)

Got a question? Here are 10 research tips for finding answers online (and yes: some of them are borderline stalking…)

Need an office? Try the public library. (Tons of entrepreneurs are working between the book stacks, these days. Who knows who you’ll meet?)

After reviewing more than 20,000 resumes, this Google recruiter reveals the 5 biggest mistakes that he sees. Word to the wise: don’t lie.

Are you a graphic designer? Don’t over-work and get under-paid. Here’s how to negotiate your salary.

This scrappy company used a Kickstarter campaign to get up and rolling. Today, they make toys designed to get girls interested in engineering. (I love this!)

Do you know the single biggest reason why most entrepreneurs fail? (You might be surprised.) Here it is… plus 5 things you should do to overcome it.

Ready to re-invent yourself and leap into a new business or career? Here is the ultimate cheat-sheet from the great James Altucher. (The good news: you can do this! The bad news: it will take at least 4 years to make a good living.)

I hope that 2014 was a productive and satisfying year for you.

Let’s make 2015 even better.

Find great work. Do great work. See you next year!

—Ellen


Image: Willie Franklin

Kat Williams: Founder of RockN’Roll Bride and Co-founder of The Blogcademy

Ellen Fondiler | Pick My Brain

Ellen Fondiler | Pick My Brain: Kat Williams

Enjoy this week’s installment featuring a British blogger who spends every day of her life writing about…weddings, romance and true, everlasting love! Introducing…Kat Williams!

Ellen Fondiler | Pick My Brain: Kat Williams


Question:

You took a topic that you’re obsessed with — weddings! — and you turned your obsession into a blog & profitable online business. What’s your biggest piece of advice for someone who is saying, “I know what I love to do… but I have no idea how to make money, doing it?”

[Kat]: My biggest piece of advice would be… to just start!

Stop procrastinating and waiting until everything is “perfect.”

The big secret is that nothing is ever perfect, and that nobody knows what they are doing, at first. All of those bloggers and business owners who seem to “have it all together” are probably fumbling and experimenting just as much as you!

So, if you’re trying to make a living doing something that you love, just have fun with it in the beginning and see where things take you.

Don’t quit your day job (yet!). Just start playing around. Put things out there. Release products. Throw parties. Hold events. Write. Blog. Share photos.

See what resonates with people and keep experimenting. In time, you will slowly attract an audience of people who are curious about what you’re doing. Things will naturally evolve.

With one of my projects, The Blogcademy — a training program for bloggers who want to “go pro” — my business partners and I never could have imagined that it would take the direction it’s currently taking.

Today, The Blogcademy is a live workshop series with events in cities all over the world. We’ve trained over 700 students and we’ve created an online “home school” version, too.

But this didn’t just explode out of nowhere.

First? We had to just START.

We had to put that first workshop out there and see if people bought tickets…once the first one went well, we added another, and then another.

We started small… and simple.

So, if you’ve got a big passion, and want to make money doing it…just get going.

Don’t be irresponsible and invest your life savings — or go into debt — to get it off the ground.

Start, but start small.

Put things out there that are easy and inexpensive for you to make, and that make you happy, and see what happens!

If you start, you’ll have a shot at turning your passion into a business or career.

If you don’t start, you won’t have any shot at all.

That may sound blunt, but it’s the truth!

Ellen Fondiler | Pick My Brain: Kat Williams


Images: Shell de Mar.

How Do I Weigh Pros and Cons To Make The Right Choice?

Ellen Fondiler | Advice

Dear Ellen,

I’m a junior in college, and I’m starting to think about “life after graduation.”

Graduate school is definitely an option, on the table.

I have a professor who is really encouraging me to apply for a Masters program, and then go on to a PhD. (She’d be my mentor, and I would become her research assistant.)

I’ve talked it over with my parents, and as long as I can cover 50% of my tuition with scholarships and get a part-time job (like tutoring undergrads), then they are willing to help cover the rest.

I have to admit, staying in school for another two to five years feels pretty appealing. I could even see myself becoming a professor someday.

But a part of me is wondering, “Am I just scared to get out into the ‘real world’?”

I don’t want to enroll in graduate school for the wrong reasons. But I can see plenty of pros and cons, no matter which path I choose.

How can I decide which choice is the right one? I’ve been over-thinking and re-thinking this situation so much, I’m not seeing clearly anymore. Blech.

Sincerely,

Questioning My Motives

Ellen Fondiler | Ask Ellen: How Do I Weigh Pros and Cons To Make The Right Choice?

Dear Questioning:

You’re asking all the right kinds of questions, and you’re clearly very self-aware. That’s commendable.

Bottom line:

When you choose a path because it feels safe and comfortable, there’s nothing wrong with that. Safety can be lovely!

But safety generally doesn’t lead to growth, evolution or self-discovery.

To get those kinds of experiences? You’ve got to move out of your comfort zone and choose a path that fascinates you — but also scares you.

This advice might sound cliché. But it’s true.

So, how can you decide which choice is the right choice?

And why are certain choices so darn hard to make?

In her TED talk, philosopher Ruth Chang acknowledges that big decisions like the one you are facing can be agonizingly difficult… because there’s no clear “winning option.”

In any easy choice, one alternative is obviously better than the other. (“Delicious slice of your favorite pie… or a punch in the face?”)

In a hard choice, one alternative is better in some ways, the other alternative is better in other ways, and neither is clearly the “best.” (“Delicious slice of your favorite pie… or a delicious scoop of your favorite ice cream?”)

The best way to make a hard choice is to define who you want to be in the world – that is, the kind of contribution that you want to make — and then choose the option that seems most likely to get you there.

If it feels helpful, do some journaling to clarify your feelings about this crossroads.

Try writing down phrases like…

When I think about doing 5 more years of school, I feel…

When I think about becoming a professor, I feel…

When I think about leaving academia behind and going out into the real world, I feel…

Right now, my ultimate dream career would be…

When I think about going after that dream, I feel…

Ultimately, I want to be someone who is brave enough to…

Ultimately, I want to be someone who inspires other people to…

Write freely, without thinking too hard, and just see what comes up.

Your responses may surprise you, and the answer to the question in your heart might be right there on the page.

As Ruth Chang states: “In the space of hard choices, we have the power to create reasons for ourselves to become the distinctive people that we are.”

And that’s why a “hard choice,” like the one you are facing, is not a curse but a godsend. This is an opportunity to define who you want to be, and take a big, decisive step in that direction.

Once you silence all the noise, fold up that piece of paper with all the pros and cons, and really listen to your heart and your gut…

You will know what to choose.

You will know what to do.

Yours,

Ellen


Image: Willie Franklin

Heidi Rose Robbins: Poet & Astrologer

Ellen Fondiler | Pick My Brain

Ellen Fondiler | Pick My Brain: Heidi Rose Robbins

Ever wish you could sit down with a super-accomplished person and ask, “What does it take to break into your industry? What’s it like to be you?”

With Pick My Brain, that’s exactly what we do.

Enjoy this week’s installment featuring my dear friend Heidi Rose Robbins… a woman who makes her living through the mystical & creative arts, as an astrologer & poet.

Heidi is a true inspiration to me, and she is living proof that you can make a living doing what you love… no matter how “wild” or “out there” your passion may be.

Ellen Fondiler | Pick My Brain: Heidi Rose Robbins

Question:

So many people write poetry in secret, never sharing their words with others.
But you’ve found the courage to share your poems in front of huge audiences, as a public speaker. You’ve also self-published a collection of poetry. You even have videos of you reciting poems on your website. What’s your biggest piece of advice for a “shy poet” who wants to start sharing poems in public?

[Heidi]: Start with you and the page.

Scribble in your favorite notebook. Don’t stop.

Tell yourself you can scratch it all out.

Be playful.

Give yourself time and space to play with the words.

And then….

When you begin to feel happy with what is forming on the page,
read it out loud to YOURSELF.

Lock yourself in a room and read it in your closet, but read it out loud.

That which is in you must be expressed outside of you.

Listen to how the words land. You’ll hear what wants to stay, what needs to change.

Change it up.

Be willing to cross out everything but one stanza and dive in again.

Read it out loud again.

Then, invite your best friend over.

Or get her on the phone.

Read it.

Out loud.

Don’t start talking when it’s done.

Let her talk.

Let him talk.

Tell your friend you want to hear what they liked.

Leave it at that.

Then, have a poetry night.

Invite 4 or 5 people.

Make a cheese plate.

Pour some wine.

Let everyone bring a poem they love or have written themselves.

Then, read YOUR poem.

Let this night be about celebration — not criticism.

Do this again and again.

Practice it.

Practice sharing.

Then, one day,

Share your poetry with the world.

Put it on Facebook, Pinterest or Google+.

Send it to your whole mailing list. (Even if that mailing list is your parents and your two friends from college).

Make a video of yourself reading it.

Post that.

Just share your gift.

Let your heart lead the way.

Be crazy bold.

Offer it up.

Press the send, submit, publish now button.

One by one, send your babies into the world.

Breathe deeply as you do so.

Then, collect them all and put them under one roof.

Self-publish a book.

That’s the easy part.

The hard part is just taking all the first baby steps to share your light


Images: Heidi Rose Robbins.