Month: June 2014

How Do I Stop Feeling Stuck?

ASKELLEN

Dear Ellen:

I graduated from college 11 months ago and so far, I have not been able to find a job in my field (I was an English major — and my dream is to work in publishing). I have applied to hundreds of places but so far, nothing has panned out.

I am trying to stay hopeful, but I’ve reached a point where I don’t know what else to do. I spend most of the day in my room, reading updates on Facebook and watching movies on my computer. I am living back home with my parents, and I feel like nothing has changed since I was in high school.

How can I recapture the energy I felt at graduation? Is there anything I can be doing to make better use of my time — and find a paying job?

Please help. It feels like all of my friends are all “grown up,” living in their own apartments, doing cool things in the world, while I’m just … stuck.

Signed,

Defeated in San Diego

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Dear DISD:

I hear your pain and believe me — you are not alone.

Suffering through rejection after rejection is never easy. And feeling disappointed is only human.

When it comes to landing your dream job, there’s no sure-fire road to success.

But I can tell you this:

If you are hearing a lot of “No’s,” it’s not enough to simply keep “applying” and “putting yourself out there.”

You’ve got to put yourself out there — but with a stronger, more impressive package.

Keep repeating the same old moves — the same cover letter, the same resume, the same networking style — and you’re likely to keep getting the same results for another 11 months.

Try out a new angle.  And you might finally crack open that door.

So, where should you go from here? I think you know the answer, DISD. It doesn’t take much to see that you need to get off the computer and back out in the world. Help your parents around the house. Go rake some leaves, or shovel some snow. Get the energy moving again!

There are tons of things you can do to get motivated and rebuild your self-esteem — including exercise (take a hike — it’s free!) or taking a low-cost yoga class. You could also volunteer at a local non-profit (check to see if there is a chapter of 826 National in your city). Or, become a tutor at your local high school — you are a college graduate, after all!

Now that you’re out of the house, let’s deal with the problem at hand: finding a job. It’s important to reframe how you think about being “unemployed.” Try to find a new perspective. Most of all: try to find ways to use this time wisely — by building up skills + experiences that will make you more valuable + employable!

First of all, make sure that your resume, Linkedin profile and cover letters are all in order and ready to go — so that when you find your dream job, you can act quickly. Check out this cool resume-building tool — it’s sure to help you stand out from the crowd.

Second, think outside the box. Don’t limit yourself to thinking that you have to work in publishing, even if that was your original dream. Think big. Think crazy.

For starters…

: Check out these 35 careers you won’t believe actually exist.

: Or these 26 ways to make a living as a wordsmith.

: Or these 10 off-the-wall businesses.

Get the idea? The point is, DISD, there’s only one way to bounce back after a string of depressing rejections.

It takes courage, but it’s not complicated:

You simply decide to go back in.

And this time? You do it better.

Don’t let a small bump in the road — or even a thousand bumps in the road — derail you from your dream.

Get out of the house.

And go back in.

I promise, you will be out of your parents’ place in no time.

Yours,

Ellen


Image: Willie Franklin

Morgan Schwanke: Start-Up Superstar

UNLOCKEDSTORIES

UNLOCKED Stories

To do the work you love, you’ve got to unlock a few doors. UNLOCKED Stories are honest conversations with 20 and 30-somethings who chose a path + made it happen.

A note from Ellen: I’m thrilled to spotlight Morgan in this week’s installment of UNLOCKED STORIES, because he is a perfect example of somebody who saw a problem — college students trying to find affordable places to live — and created a start-up to provide the solution. Even if your career has nothing to do with real estate or start-ups, I know you’re going to be inspired by Morgan’s story. Read on, and don’t miss the powerful questions at the very end…

: What do you do?

I started a company called ON MY BLOCK that helps college students find affordable places to live, off-campus.

As CEO, my job is to guide the company in the right direction. I work with our advisors and investors — making sure we don’t run out of money, recruiting new team members, and basically, making sure things get done!

 

: Where did the original idea for your work come from?

The idea for ON MY BLOCK came to me during my freshman year of college.

Like many students, I didn’t really like living in the dorms on-campus. I wanted more peace and quiet — a place of my own! So I started looking for other options on big websites like Craigslist.

It was a frustrating experience. I encountered a lot of landlords who were flaky, unreliable, wanted to charge astronomical rental rates, or simply didn’t want to rent their apartments to students, for whatever reason. I wasted a lot of time trying to “follow up” with landlords who weren’t an ideal match.

And finally, I thought, “There’s got to be an easier way to find a place to live!”

ON MY BLOCK actually started as a simple Google spreadsheet – my personal record of which landlords + properties were worth checking out, the amenities they included, monthly rent, and so forth.

Pretty soon, friends at school starting asking, “Hey, can I see that spreadsheet? I’m having trouble finding a place to live, too.”

After the third or fourth person asked to peek at my spreadsheet, I realized that there was a business opportunity, here.

So, I started a company called Student Realty-San Diego. I was, in essence, a matchmaker between students and landlords. In about 2 ½ months, I helped about 80 students secure leases. I charged students $50 to help them find a great place to live, and I charged landlords $200 – $300 a pop.

The more I got into it, the more I realized that a LOT of students struggle to find affordable off-campus housing. In order to help thousands of students — not just a couple hundred — I needed to expand my vision.

With that realization, ON MY BLOCK was born.

Eventually, we built our housing-match website and developed a smartphone app. We are now in two locations — San Diego and San Luis Obispo — with plans to expand across California, and eventually, the world!

 

: What were you doing before On My Block?

I graduated from the University of San Diego, where I majored in Interdisciplinary Humanities.

After I returned from my junior year abroad in Madrid, I ran for a new role in student government and became the President of Associated Students. That was a very exciting time — it was empowering to have a big impact on campus policy. To have an idea, and see it come to life.

Most people are surprised to learn that I was always very shy. One of the goals I had in college was to move past that. I took a public speaking class during my sophomore year, which helped me to come out of my shell. A few years later, I was speaking in front of the entire student body at graduation — and I realized that I loved it!

 

UNLOCKED Stories

: What was you biggest “LOCKED DOOR” moment? Did you almost give up on your dream? How did you feel in that moment?

I almost didn’t get into the University of San Diego.

I applied, and they put me on a waitlist.

At the urging of a family friend, I walked onto the campus, marched into the Admissions Department, spoke to one of the staff members there…and got in!

A few years later, I had another “locked door” moment. I was running out of money, and was thinking about transferring to a less expensive college, just to finish up my degree. I applied to couple of other schools, and they offered me scholarships.

I really wanted to stay at USD, so I met with the administrators to see if they could match the scholarships I’d been offered at other schools — which they did.

Because of that, I wanted to give back to my school and fellow students. That’s what inspired me to run for student government, and also to develop ON MY BLOCK.

When I encounter a “locked door,” my initial reaction is to be anxious. But once I take a step back and break the problem down into smaller steps, it becomes less scary.

I also say to myself, “The worst thing they can say is NO.” It never hurts to ask for what you want, even if it’s a little unorthodox. If you make a strong case, you’ll be surprised at how often people say “Yes!”

: What is the BEST thing that has happened since you UNLOCKED that door?

There was a moment where ON MY BLOCK was running low on funds, and we thought it was all over.

But then we won a couple of business plan competitions — $10,000 from the University of San Diego, then $25,000 from a San Diego Venture group competition, where we were selected out of 90 companies. Those awards helped us to stay afloat.

And then, we had another BIG win.

I pitched ON MY BLOCK to several investors in Silicon Valley. One of them got excited about our vision, and helped us raise $800,000 in seed money. He even found a house for me + my team to live in for a year, for free.

When that investor said “YES” to our vision, it took everything to the next level. We’re so grateful for his guidance + support!

 

: What’s the next door you need to unlock? (And what’s the plan?)

Our expansion model is similar to that of Uber and Lyft.

We want to make sure we provide great value at each school, in each region, before we move on to a new one.

The next door we want to unlock is all about customer service and sales. Basically: we want the ON MY BLOCK experience to be top-notch and totally consistent, on every site, in every city.

Our plan is to stay as small as we can, for as long as we can. Working lean + efficiently, before we seek out more money from investors.

 

: Last but not least: What’s your biggest piece of advice for anyone who wants to stay motivated, do amazing work and unlock major doors?

Always find something that makes you hungry and that makes you curious to learn more.

Remember that business is definitely about money, but it’s not just about the money.

Do things for the right reason.

Believe in what you are doing.

UNLOCKED Stories

UNLOCK yourself

Three questions to think about, write about — or talk about with a friend.

1. While in college, Morgan had an experience that was frustrating and annoying – trying to find affordable off-campus housing.

: What’s one experience you’ve had that made you say, “There’s got to be a better way to do this!”

2. A turning point in Morgan’s career was when he overcame his fear of public speaking. Eventually, he addressed the entire student body at graduation!

: What’s one of your biggest fears, right now? What’s one thing you could do to move through it?

3. Another turning point in Morgan’s career was when he pitched investors in Silicon Valley, inspiring one amazing investor to back his project.

: If you were asking for $800,000 to fund a project that you’re passionate about, what would that project be? How will it help people around you?

 


For more UNLOCKED interviews, click over here.

Know somebody that ought to be spotlighted? Write to me here.

See you next time for another inspiring conversation!

I Have Too Many Options. Which Path Should I Take?

ASKELLEN

Dear Ellen,

I graduated from college about two years ago, and while some of my friends are still struggling to find a decent job, I have the opposite problem — I have too many options!

I could stay at my current job (they’d love me to stick around) … or apply for a higher-paying job at another company (I had a great conversation with a hiring manager there at a networking event. The job sounds amazing!).

I could also go for a totally different challenge — like spending a year working overseas. Or I could apply for a scholarship to go to graduate school, which is something I know I want to do, eventually!

The problem is, I can’t figure out which option is the best choice for me, right now, and I’m driving myself crazy trying to weigh all the pros and cons.

I’m starting to feel overwhelmed — but I can’t talk to my friends about this, because it feels like I’m rubbing all of my “amazing options” in their faces.

Any advice on how to just CHOOSE something, already?

Signed,

Too Many Options

 

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Dear Too Many Options:

You’ve got the best kind of problem — too many amazing possibilities to choose from!

But you’re not feeling “amazing.” You’re feeling overwhelmed and indecisive.

I get it. I really do.

As an entrepreneur with lots of different passions + interests, I know how agonizing it can be to have to choose “just one thing” from an array of tempting options. It’s so easy to get trapped in an infinite cycle of cross-comparison, spinning your wheels, afraid to choose and commit.

But here’s what I know for sure…

There is no 100% accurate way to predict if a decision is the “perfect” one.

There just isn’t. And there probably never will be.

So rather than weighing (and re-weighing) all the pro’s and con’s of each option, the best thing you can do is change your whole attitude about what it means to “choose.”

In other words: to starting thinking about “choosing” as something that expands your world, instead of shrinking it down.

Try saying to yourself:

ANY decision I make will be a good one. ANY path I choose will hold its own rewards. ANY option I select will allow me to grow, explore, gain skills + serve others.

And TMO? It’s completely true.

If you embrace that kind of attitude, you’ll be able to commit to any decision fully — and savor the adventure without regrets.

 

Need a little more guidance?

Here are a few of my favorite role models — smart writers + entrepreneurs, each with their own perspectives on how to make a good career decision:

Marie Forleo — who has guided tens of thousands of women into new careers + businesses — suggests asking yourself a simple question: In 10 years, what will I regret NOT having pursued?

Dr. Meg Jay — author of The Defining Decade — talks about the importance of making intentional choices, especially in your twenties. Think you’d like to work in film someday? Then choose a job (even if it’s a menial gig at minimum wage) that will expose you to people in the film industry. You never know who might be impressed by your focus + passion … and give you an opportunity to rise up through the ranks.

Simon Sinek — author of Start With Why — urges you to understand what drives you — WHY you want to go to work — before worrying about WHAT you’re going to do or HOW you’re going to do it. When you “start with why,” you’ll always feel inspired by your work … and inspire others along the way.

Marie, Meg and Simon all have excellent tips + perspectives to help you choose your next move.

But at the end of the day, the only way to really figure out what the “best” choice is going to be…is to pick one thing and just do it.

Try things on.

See what fits.

Yours,

Ellen


Image: Willie Franklin.

UNLOCKED Links: June 6, 2014

UNLOCKEDLINKS

Every Friday, I curate the best links on how to find work that you love, be excellent at what you do, and unlock any door that stands in your way. Here’s your list for today!

THOUGHT FOR THE WEEK

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FIND WORK YOU LOVE

How to write a cover letter that your future employers will actually read (and love).

An interview with Zen teacher Sharon Salzberg about her new book: Real Happiness at Work: Meditations for Accomplishment, Achievement and Peace.

Want a bigger paycheck? How about more vacation time? A flexible schedule? Here’s a list of 5 things to negotiate, besides just your salary — and how to get your boss to say “yes.”

BE YOUR OWN BOSS

You probably won’t find this tip in any “business development” book, but it works: a 30-second habit that will make you better at everything you do.

Think running a profitable business is all about having the “smartest” ideas? Not true. In this TED talk, psychologist Angela Lee Duckworth describes how determination and grit are the best predictors of success.

Hate asking for money? Even when it’s for a good cause? Get over it. This researcher knows that fundraising can be fun! And he proves it. With science.

NEAT TOOLS + INVENTIONS

Life coach Jenny Blake shares a mother lode of 90+ tech tools to help manage your life. (Now I just need a tool to help me figure out how to manage all of these amazing tools!)

Can’t jet off to Maui? Here are 5 apps that will calm you during your hectic workday. Ah, serenity.

For the bloggers out there: here are 26 blogging tools used by the pros!

LIFE LESSONS

Ever gotten paralyzed at the grocery store, amidst all the different options? (A whole aisle of cereal? What?!). If you were to guess, do you think we are happier with more options or less?

Legendary philosopher Henry David Thoreau on defining your own success. My favorite quote: “If the day and the night are such that you greet them with joy, and life emits a fragrance like flowers and sweet-scented herbs, is more elastic, more starry, more immortal — that is your success.”

In this piece, author Steven Pressfield riffs about the interior life of an artist, writer or entrepreneur. Like all of his work, it’s simple, profound and beautiful. (His book The War of Art is a classic.)

GET OUT OF THE HOUSE

Dinner at a museum…as a date night? Art museums around the country are starting to woo a new generation of patrons: Millennials. (That means you!)

Working (or job-hunting) from home, all day long? Starting to go a little bonkers? Here’s one person’s take on co-working spaces. (Spoiler alert: for him, the benefits of daily human connection outweigh the small quibbles).

There’s nothing like getting out of town to refresh and revitalize your outlook. Don’t have the money? Go camping. Or rent an elf hut in the forest.

Find great work. Do great work. And have a great weekend!

—Ellen


Images: Magnus Klackenstam and Claptone.