Month: May 2014

What Steps Should I Take Post-College?

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Dear Ellen:

I am a senior in college and I’m feeling excited (and a little bit nervous) about my next steps. I know that my parents are excited for me, too — but their constant questions are making me anxious.

Everywhere I turn, someone is asking me what I am going to do when I graduate. My parents, my aunts and uncles, my professors, my friends — everybody wants to know what my “plan” is. How I am going to “change the world.”

The truth is, I don’t want to change the world. I just want to make jewelry. My dream is to open a small studio and sell my jewelry on Etsy and in local stores and farmers’ markets.

I feel terrible that my parents spent all this money on college and all I want to do is make necklaces and earrings. I’ve shared a few hints about my jewelry shop dream with my parents, and I can tell they’re not impressed. I think they’re hoping I’ll “grow up” and start focusing on a “real job.”

The next time somebody asks, “What’s your plan after college?” … should I tell the truth? Or keep pretending like I’m aiming for some big, fancy, change-the-world career? I feel like I’m letting everybody down, and the whole thing is making me sick to my stomach. Please help.

Signed,

Lost and Confused

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Dear Lost and Confused,

I totally understand that you must be getting pretty sick and tired of hearing questions like these:

“What’s your plan, after graduation?”
“Do you have an internship lined up?”
“Where are you applying for jobs?”

THE SUBTEXT, OF COURSE, IS:

“What are you DOING with your life? And how are YOU going to change the world?”

Such big questions! Over and over and over. It’s enough to make you want to run for the hills and hide in a cave.

But I’m about to say something that most people wouldn’t dare — and that your parents probably don’t want to hear.

READY? HERE IT COMES:

Not everybody was born to “change the world.” And it’s totally OK if you don’t want to. Not everybody was born to be a lawyer, an activist, a legendary educator, or a life-saving doctor. Not everybody was born to be the next Mother Teresa or Gandhi.

Some people were born to…

: Write about coffee for other coffee fanatics.

: Play charming music that delights people.

: Teach yoga + take photos of other yogis.

: Open a farm-to-table pizza restaurant.

: Make soft, cotton t-shirts with kind, loving words.

…or, like you, make beautiful jewelry that makes people smile.

The Zen Buddhist scholar Robert Thurman has said:  “Don’t ask yourself what the world needs. Ask yourself what makes you come alive — and then go do that.”

You don’t need to solve world hunger or eradicate poverty in order to make money — and make a difference. If you simply do your work with intention and joy, you will be an inspiration to others every single day.

Now…I’m about to say one more thing that most people wouldn’t dare — and that your college career counselor would probably cringe, to read.

READY? HERE IT COMES:

Your greatest passion of all might have nothing to do with your career.

And it’s totally OK if that’s true, for you.

I’ve always been lucky to have fascinating careers + opportunities — working as an attorney fielding death penalty appeals, owning a bakery, running an award-winning garden and floral design company, and later, starting a non profit. I thrive on the challenge of making “something” out of “nothing,” and I’ve loved it all.

But when people ask me about my greatest passion, I always say — without hesitation — that it is motherhood. Being with my children and watching them grow gives me a sense of deep gladness that no career has ever provided, in quite the same way. It is the ONE thing that never fails to make me come alive.

Every year, tens of thousands of college seniors put on cap and gowns and pass through the portal into the next chapter of their lives. So many of them have NO CLUE what they want to do next. You — Lost and Confused — are one of the lucky ones. You actually have a vision. You see a path ahead — however dimly lit. You are NOT really “lost and confused.” You are blessed.

As you march out into the world to carve out your path + choose your work, don’t worry so much about what the world “needs” or how you can make a major dent in history.

INSTEAD, SIMPLY ASK:

What makes me come alive?

Then go do it.

(And…I think you already know exactly how to do it.)

I can’t wait to see your jewelry on the shelves of my favorite shop. I know it’s going to be stunning.

Yours,

Ellen


Image: Willie Franklin.

UNLOCKED Links: May 20, 2014

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Every Friday, I curate the best links on how to find work that you love, be excellent at what you do, and unlock any door that stands in your way. Here’s your list for today!

  

THOUGHT FOR THE WEEK

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FIND WORK YOU LOVE

Writing your resume is just half the battle. Next step? Making it spiffy and stylish, so it pops out from the pack! Here are 41 of the best resume templates. Ever.

Trying to figure out your next career move? Here are 7 myths that you need to ditch.

Still feeling stuck? Get inspired by these 5 people who made seemingly “crazy” career changes, because they refused to settle for a “just okay” kinda life.

  

BE YOUR OWN BOSS

Jonathan Fields, a seasoned entrepreneur, speaks out about the importance of being “naked and silent.” Translation: being open to receiving advice.

Think you’re “too old” (or “too young”) to start your own business? Here’s a list of 100 amazing things that have been achieved by people at every age.

It’s a tricky, emotional question: “How should I decide what to charge for my skills?” Take this short master-class by Ramit Sethi to figure it out.

  

NEAT TOOLS + INVENTIONS

Not great at detecting what people are (really) feeling? Not to worry. Soon, your phone will read people’s emotions better than you ever could!

Parched for inspiration? See how a disposable coffee cup inspired this person to invent a housing solution for families displaced by natural disasters.

It feels like there’s a new app every minute! Here’s a list of must-have apps
from a man who has sifted through thousands, in search of the BEST.

  

LIFE LESSONS

Gloria Steinem permanently changed the career landscape for women. In honor of her 80th birthday, here are 25 ways she taught us to be better women — and human beings.

Reality check: life never turns out exactly the way we expect. Writer Dani Shapiro offers a few beautiful pointers on the art of letting go.

Eat, Pray, Love author Elizabeth Gilbert has a secret to share: everyone who has ever delivered a TED Talk was terrified to get up on that stage. No matter how rich, famous, successful or smart. (As an aside, her new book — The Signature of All Things — is a wonderful read.)

  

GET OUT OF THE HOUSE

Ready for a break? Here is the ultimate guide to taking a sabbatical. And also: how to prepare before you unplug and check out!

Want to take a trip, but don’t know where to go? Here are 32 surreal places that actually exist (… and these photos were NOT photoshopped!)

You snooze. You lose. Literally. The science of sleep and the trouble with the snooze button. (Just a little more motivation to get up … and on with your day!)

Find great work. Do great work. And have a great weekend!

—Ellen


Images: Magnus Klackenstam and Claptone.

Jane Atkins: Sustainability Superhero

UNLOCKEDSTORIES

To do the work you love, you’ve got to unlock a few doors. UNLOCKED Stories are honest conversations with 20 and 30-somethings who chose a path + made it happen. 

A note from Ellen: I’m thrilled to spotlight Jane in this installment of UNLOCKED Stories, because she’s a perfect example of somebody who saw a specific problem in the world — de-forestation + other harmful farming practices — decided to make a difference, and actually made it happen. Even if your career has nothing to do with saving the planet, I know you’re going to be inspired by Jane’s story. I know I am. Read on, and don’t miss the powerful questions at the very end…

 

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: What do you do? 

I work at a company called SCS Global Services, which partners with brands like Starbucks, Ferrero and Numi — and organizations such as Fair Trade USA — to make sure that consumers can trust the labels on the products they buy.

Simply put: we make sure that if a label says, “certified organic,” you can believe it.

  

: Where did the original idea for your work come from?

I wasn’t always interested in organic farming and sustainability, but I’ve always been interested in traveling and understanding how all the different parts of our world are connected.

A few years after graduating from college, I moved to Thailand for 2 years. I still didn’t know what I wanted to do as a long-term career, but I did know that I wanted to travel. So, I followed my gut and trusted that I’d figure it out.

While in Thailand, I saw the devastating impact of de-forestation, first-hand.
Seeing the damage that was being done to our planet was startling, and I immediately wanted to raise awareness about what was happening.

After returning home to California, I discovered an amazing non-profit called the Hilton Bialek Habitat (now MEarth), which taught kids all about sustainable, planet-friendly farming. Every day for 4 months, I drove past the Habitat facility and finally mustered up the courage to knock on the door and offer to volunteer. Before I knew it, I was developing and running the native plant program!

  

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: What was you biggest “LOCKED DOOR” moment? Did you almost give up on your dream?

Even once I’d found my “path,” there were lots of moments when I felt very confused. Should I keep traveling, or get a job? Keep the job, or go back to school? Neither, both, or all of the above? It wasn’t that other people were telling me, “no.” It was more like my own fears and hesitations were getting in the way.

Learning to trust my gut, no matter what, has been a lifelong lesson for me. It’s always been the key to moving forward.

  

: How did you feel at that moment? 

Honestly, I went through a period where I felt really stuck.

While I loved working at the Habitat, I missed being able to travel and I wanted to do sustainability work that would impact millions, not just hundreds. I hated leaving a great job, but I knew that I needed to connect with my larger vision. It took time to figure things out, but I’m so glad I trusted my heart.

  

: Happily, you managed to UNLOCK that door. How did you do it?

I weighed all the options, and finally decided to take a big risk and go to graduate school. I enrolled at the University of Washington’s School of Forest Resources and began a master’s program. It seemed crazy to study such an obscure subject — Forest Resources! — with no clear “career plan” in place. But I trusted that my studies would lead me to the work I wanted to be doing. Turns out, I was right.

Serendipitously, while in grad school, a research project led me to develop a relationship with the owner of SCS, my current employer. I was just about to enter a PhD program when I received a job offer from them. I took the job, and the rest is (recent) history!

 

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: What is the BEST thing that has happened since you UNLOCKED that door?

Since taking my job at SCS, I have been able to bring my work to a bigger stage. I have traveled the world — to Africa, Thailand and Guatemala — to look at sustainability practices around the world. I feel that I am playing a role in creating a better future for farmers + consumers alike. That means everything to me. Even when my work feels “hard,” I know that what I’m doing really matters.

But the absolute BEST thing that has happened to me since taking that job has nothing to do with my career. It was the birth of my daughter Lola, last September.

  

: What’s the next door you need to unlock? (And what’s the plan?)

The next door I need to unlock is figuring out how to balance work with motherhood.

I love my work — but it involves lots of international travel for long periods of time. Travel used to be a top priority but me, but now, with my new daughter, I don’t want to be away from my family for weeks on end. I need to find a way to balance my life’s work with my life.

Motherhood is still very new to me, so I don’t have the perfect plan just yet. But I feel confident that the right answer will show up when I need it.

  

: Last but not least: What’s your biggest piece of advice for anyone who wants to stay motivated, do amazing work and unlock major doors?

Be curious. Talk to lots of people. Don’t leave any stone unturned. For me, building a career has been all about building relationships with people who share my passions … and following my curiosity.

Serendipitous contacts often lead to unexpected opportunities.

Chart a path — but be open to the many different ways to get there.

 

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UNLOCK yourself

Three questions to think about, write about — or talk about with a friend.

1. After college, Jane was uncertain about her career path — but while traveling overseas, she saw a specific problem that she wanted to help fix.

: What’s one problem in the world that YOU would like to help fix?

2. A turning point in Jane’s career was when she “mustered up the courage” to ask a local non-profit if she could volunteer. That brave move led to her first full-time job.

: What’s one place that YOU would love to volunteer — even just for one day?

3. As a new mom, Jane is now looking for ways to do a little bit less traveling, and stay closer to home. But for many years, Jane wanted travel to be a central part of her career.

: What’s one thing that ABSOLUTELY needs to be a central part of your career — at least for right now?

 


For more UNLOCKED interviews, click over here.

Know somebody that ought to be spotlighted? Write to me here.

See you next time for another inspiring conversation!

Shauna Haider: Professional Blogger and Design Maven

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Ever wish you could sit down with a super-accomplished person and ask, “What does it take to break into your industry? What’s it like to be you? And when you’re looking to hire someone, what does it take to impress you?”

With Pick My Brain, that’s exactly what we do. Enjoy this week’s installment featuring Shauna Haider— a professional blogger.

 

Question: Being a “professional blogger” is a huge dream, for so many twenty­ and thirty­-somethings. It seems almost too good to be true! What’s the best thing about it … and the worst?

I’m Shauna, a creative director, graphic designer and blogger residing in Portland, Oregon. Blogging has been a huge passion of mine since 2001. On my lifestyle blog, Nubby Twiglet, I curate and share insights on living a well-designed existence.

But before I dig into the best and worst parts of blogging, let’s set the record straight: you really have to do it for the love. I know that can sound a little cliché but blogging is hard work and chances are that you won’t see big payoffs for your efforts for quite awhile. You truly have to be passionate about it because that passion is what will pull you through the ups and downs.

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The best thing about blogging

The best thing about blogging are the connections I’ve made. Nearly all of my friendships have been made through my blog because I wasn’t afraid to put myself out there and share my views and personal stories. It can be a little scary at first but if you’re open, others will relate.

I’ve also made a lot of professional connections. I run a design studio full-time and nearly every client I’ve worked with over the last five years first found me through my personal blog, liked what I had to share and clicked through to hire me for their projects.

Blogging has been the foundation of my business and best of all, it’s been a low cost way to get the word out about what I do.

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The worst thing about blogging

The worst thing about blogging can be the negativity. That first negative comment you ever get can really sting but it’s important to remember that it happens to everyone. You’re never alone. By being open and sharing the great things happening in your life, it can create an unexpected sense of competition and jealousy from others but you have to push through it.

The best way I’ve combatted trolls is by developing a support system of other bloggers who know what it’s like to be vulnerable and put yourself out there. It’s important to have those people around you who “get it” because everyone else will probably just tell you to get over it.

Blogging is just like anything else, there will be some bad lumped in with the good. But I can tell you from personal experience that the good will always outweigh the bad and if you have a purpose for your blog and stick with it, wonderful things can happen.

The unexpected thing about blogging

I blogged for very little direct income for a solid decade because I loved it. Sure, I made a good living from my design services by way of my blog but I blogged regularly because it was an important creative outlet for me.

Then, in 2011, I met up with two full-time blogger friends in Las Vegas and over the course of a week, we hatched the idea of teaching a strategy-based workshop geared towards women bloggers and small business owners called The Blogcademy. Since then, The Blogcademy has given me the opportunity to earn a solid income, travel the world with my two best friends and teach women the power of using their voices for good.

When you start a blog, you might not have a crystal clear vision of where it will lead at first but that’s okay — the point is to get started and follow through because with each post, your voice will get stronger and your vision will become more clear. If it wasn’t for starting my first blog in 2001 and getting over my fear of putting myself out there, The Blogcademy would have never happened a decade later.


Images: Made U Look Photography.